Walking with Grief

I don’t think we ever get “over” or “through with” grief, we simply walk along side of it.

With Mother’s day just around the corner, we are (hopefully) reminded of our Mothers’ love for us, by bringing us into this world, along with their hopes and dreams of our lives being fulfilling, that we too would find love, be loved and have a family of our own one day. And possibly living a better life than they had.

While some of us may have or had very strong bonds with our Mother’s, maybe some didn’t. And that’s okay too. Maybe we need to grieve that loss or lack of connection so that we can move on; honoring the fact that they did what they could in raising us the best that they could, with the knowledge and resources available to them at that time.

I did a lot of walking after the passing of my Mom. We practically grew up together. She had me when she was 16 and I felt like she and I were always a team when I was growing up. Through this grief, I’d walk and listen to podcasts about grief, hoping for some wisdom nuggets that would ease my pain. After many walks and podcasts, I pulled the earbuds out and started listening to the world around me. I realized that life was still happening; people were making breakfast, the birds were chirping, and the gardens were growing. Life didn’t stop but I felt as if I had. So, on these walks I would slow down to stop under a tree to listen to the honeybees buzzing with delight, filling up their pollen-pants, or taking random pictures of nature that made me smile, just to remind myself that life is beautiful, messy and precious; sometimes all at the very same time.

If you choose to walk through your grief, think of it as a mindful meditation walk. A remembrance walk if you will. Walking with your feelings, gently remembering all the things about your special someone, walking, walking, walking, to soften the edges of your grief as they transmute and become part of your life experience. You will begin to feel better, with time. I promise.

Happy Mother’s Day Weekend coming up, to all of our Earthly Mothers who support us as well as our Heavenly Mother Angels..